A simple way to look at an eulogy would be in three steps: the opening and and thank you, the body or personal thoughts, and the closing or remembrance. There are many ways to construct all three of these parts but below are a few pointers on what may go best in each section.
The opening is best for gaining attention and thank everyone in attendance. It is recommended to do so by starting off with a memory you may have shared with the individual the funeral is for. From that point, thanking everyone for sharing in the event caring to be in attendance is considered traditional. This portion of the eulogy should be kept simple and does not need to exceed more than three to four statements.
There is a bit more creative freedom with the body of the eulogy. Often times it is expected that the person speaking discuss what the person may have been like in life as well as some assuring words of hope. Reverence is recommended at this stage and be sure to carefully select which memory you bring up. Build a rough outline for this section with three to four points you would like to make and then let your own emotions guide the flow of the speech.
The conclusion should be short but decisive. Remind everyone that it is a day of remembrance and joy. This is a short portion that need only be two three lines. It is recommend to include a final thank you as well as a moment of reverence for the deceased. This portion of the eulogy should be as emotionally organic as possible. The best speeches come from structure and honest feeling.
Here’s a great sample of a eulogy that was written in a format that will help you express your inner thoughts that you can’t express yourself because of the grief you are feeling. This has an outline that’s designed to make your funeral speech memorable to you and all of your loved ones on that occasion.